Abortion in Baguio City Benguet

Good evening, Sir/Maam Alex!

I was told to send you my reflection on my perspective, hope this adds value to your articles.

Watching her in this condition made me feel helpless; I could only offer comfort over the call. Realizing she couldn’t do this alone, I reached out to friends nearby, who, thankfully, despite the weather conditions from Typhoon Kristine, came to help her.

 

 

My Perspective as the Boyfriend Undergoing an Abortion

It all started on August 10 2024, when I first learned that the pregnancy test was positive. I knew we couldn’t afford to support a child given our current situation. I’m a graduating student who plans to pursue law school, and my girlfriend is only halfway through her six-year program. She’s also studying far from home, having moved from her province to another far province. We knew how difficult this would be for our parents if they found out. After considering several factors, including those I’ve mentioned, we concluded that abortion was the only option for both of us. Coming from a religious family, I’m aware of the moral implications of ending a life, but we’re simply not ready to become parents, which would likely result in a difficult life for our child. We decided this was the best choice.

 

Experiences and Challenges

I didn’t know how to react when I first heard the result—I was left speechless on the call. As students, finding the money was hard since we only have our allowances to save for the medication. This was challenging, as each month the pregnancy advanced, it required a higher dosage and more expensive treatment (Alex: As far as genuine meds go, Project486 med price is still the most affordable & reasonable. BEWARE of super CHEAP meds, they are probably fake esp Mifepristone ) , which would also increase the physical pain she would experience. After four months, we finally saved enough for the highest dosage available. The next challenge was timing. We’re in a long-distance relationship and only meet during online class weeks. Her schedule didn’t align with mine; she was taking exams and couldn’t undergo the procedure then, so we had to delay it another week.

When she was finally ready, my family began suspecting that I was planning to leave home, or what we call “Tanan.” Her challenge from my perspective was extremely tough; not only was she bearing all of this physically and emotionally, but now she had to face it alone. Despite wanting to sneak out to be there for her, doing so could lead my family to pressure me to break up with her. This left me with the only option of monitoring her condition over a video call.

Here’s my perspective on her experience during the procedure. On the first and second days, nothing major happened—she reported only minor cramps. On the early hours of Day 3, after taking the meds and positioning herself, the cramping became so severe that she struggled to check on the medication. Watching her in this condition made me feel helpless; I could only offer comfort over the call. Realizing she couldn’t do this alone, I reached out to friends nearby, who, thankfully, despite the weather conditions from Typhoon Kristine, came to help her.

PS: If I could give advice to readers, I’d say to mentally prepare and have a partner or at least someone nearby for support by Day 3, as this is when the process becomes more intense (Alex: This is esp true for those doing in the 2nd trimester; those doing it early in their pregnancy can do it alone as long as they have someone a call away in case of emergency)

After ten long hours of agonizing cramps, at exactly 3:00 AM, the pregnancy tissue finally passed. The relief in her eyes eased my nervousness as well. She took photos immediately afterward as per Dr. JJ’s instructions.

I’m very grateful to Dr. JJ for handling our situation with professionalism and care. In a country where abortion is illegal, we never thought we’d find real help. Without Dr. JJ and his team, we likely would have been scammed by other Facebook pages selling fake medications. We are very much happy to come across such wonderful people who are willing to help others in situations like ours.