Abortion in Bulacan
January 16, 2018
Elena, 24, Home-based Researcher
Meycauayan, Bulacan, Philippines
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“Maybe you should stop punishing yourself. I mean, what does a good mother do? A good mother does what’s best for her children. And maybe what was best for your children was wiping ’em out before they had to live miserable fucking lives.”
This was the line that forever changed my perception about abortion and maybe even about life. It was from a scene of my favorite series, Orange is the New Black where Bigg Boo talks to an inmate who has had multiple abortions. Watch it here: blob:https://www.mamamia.com.au/86ad4b2d-5e94-4565-8a50-6a7b20d7ee5e. It made real sense to me, growing up, I always felt like an unplanned child, though my parents claimed that my elder brother was the unplanned one. I am overly emotional most of my life and maybe it’s because I never really felt any emotional support from my parents. Most of the time I had wished that I was never born. So for the women contemplating about having an abortion, decide what’s best for both of you and the fetus. If you are not sure that you can handle parenthood, don’t force yourself to keep it. Financial stability is never enough! Children deserve genuine love and attention. Parenthood is really tough and complicated and you wouldn’t want to blame yourself in the future for not being a good parent just because you weren’t ready when you had children, would you? The world is already full of emotionally damaged kids, so please please please make good decisions! You can read more about my experience/roller coaster of emotions below:
I found out I was pregnant last December and it was the worst time to know as it was a busy time and the merchants for abortion-inducing meds are hard to reach. I most especially hate pharmaceutical drugs. I’m a big “organic” alternative medicine kind of person, and so I’ve tried researching about herbs and tried everything from Dong Quai, Parsley, Aloe Vera, Citrus, to Papaya, but none of them worked for me as I was already on my 4th week as I’ve tried it and it just made me even more nauseated every single day. I also am not too committed to working in routines without the assurance of anything. I’ve already spent a lot of money for herbs and I also got scammed about someone selling “knowledge” about an abortifacient substance on the internet. Beware of someone trying to sell you without telling you what the product is. I can’t believe I fell for her scam, I was really desperate back then and she made an opportunity out of it.
I’ve read about Project 486 and considered medicinal abortion would be my second option so I saved a few money to buy the meds just in case. I was on my 7th week when I finally decided to do the medicinal method. I just really wanted to get over it so I spent even the last money I had saved, as I know that having a baby would be far more expensive in the future. So after contacting Project 486, I was immediately scheduled for a consultation and decided that I do it right away. As the days passed by waiting for the parcel, I was having mixed emotions, scared and happy at the same time. Scared because I can never know what the outcome is, and happy because I know all the pregnancy struggles I was going through will finally be over soon.
After receiving the parcel, I decided what day I would start the procedure as it was a three-day process. Fasting was easy for me as I was already starving myself even before because of depression, and even now after the procedure I am not feeling too hungry and I like the way it feels. The first two days was easy and the last day was the hardest for me, of course. Physical pain was nothing I couldn’t handle but I’m starting to get worried during the first 6 hours as every discharge that came out was from the anus. Don’t worry though, Project 486 will surely take good care of you. In times that I needed reassurance, the emotional support given to me by my consultant was like a comforting hug from a friend, it was only a few words but it was all really what I needed. I wanted to get done right away so I just followed whatever my consultant has said so I won’t mess up. After 10 hours, the procedure was successful. It was the worst and best day of my life.
Abortion is a really controversial topic especially in a religious country like the Philippines where people are mostly self-righteous and judgmental. I really hope that one day the stigma about abortion would finally cease so women can have safer access.
Stay strong and good luck with your journey!
Elena (from Bulacan) had her first medical abortion on January 2018 . Four years later, she would again undergo another medical abortion procedure , click here to see her account on her 2nd medical abortion procedure.
Good day
I’m Elena, I’m a former client of project 486 back in 2018. Unfortunately, I need help again. I might be 6 weeks pregnant and I just found out last week. I was trying to Google the organization but I couldn’t find it so I thought it’s no longer active. I also couldn’t find which email I used for the interaction and out of desperation I contacted group of resellers on Facebook.
I’ve already paid for the meds and it was already sent to me before I found the project 486 emails and looked up the new website. I was reading the files sent to me back then and comparing it to the instructions given to me by the fb resellers, they sounded like they were just taking it by chances cause the preparations were long and ridiculous. They did not even consulted me on my symptoms when I told them I was spotting for a few days. The resellers have different methods so I’m afraid the procedure might not work on me. I was hoping you could help me again. Thank you
I found project486 back in 2021 when my ex-gf and I was in a crisis where she thinks she might be pregnant so I did my research and was trying to find abortion clinics in the ph. But there was none and if there was it was all a scam, that’s when I saw this comment of a woman that gave the link to project486’s website and i immediately went to it and visited their site, at first i thought it was a scam but when i saw the stories and all, i knew it wasn’t. And now my current partner was positive and we really are not ready to have a child because we’re both still in school and we’re not really stable enough to provide for one, i immediately reached out to Sir Alex and right then they replied and was really accommodating. We are thankful that project486 is there to help those who are suffering like us, it’s a relief that there are people who are willing to help peeps like us.
I am currently in the fourth week of my pregnancy, and because I am still a student and have unstable finances, I am terrified of what might happen if I do nothing. I am currently torn between doing it and not doing it, and my head is full of what-if scenarios, but I also don’t want to place an additional burden on my parents. shoulders. I’m not having an abortion to escape from my obligations, I just don’t want the unborn child to experience the same kind of life that we have right now. I want a better life for them.